Member Profile

My comment is regarding your show that aired this morning Tuesday, January 24, 2012 on Marriage and Finance. Husbands deliberately hide the finances from their wives. I have been with my husband for 28 years and we have been married 20 years. I am currently a stay at home mom and my husband pays all the bills. I have kept my own checking account and the money my husband gives me goes into the account and I write checks for gas, other car expenses, credit card, food, clothing and the money is deplete at the end of each month. Also I have kept open my own savings account but that really does no good because I have no money to put into the account. I have asked my husband over the years about our finances and he just blows me off and say I’m paying the bills what are you worried about. My husband is a financial advisor and he movies the finances and bank accounts around from time to time. To keep arguments to a minimal I don’t push the subject. My fear is: If my husband dies or we get a divorce it will take me a long time to figure out where the monies are and exactly what we owe.
How do you get your spouse to be 100% honest about the house hold finances without creating an ongoing argument?