Polyamory, Viewers' Trash or Treasure, & 90-Year-Old Sorority Pledge

The comments regarding the weakening of the American family are ignorant. I earned a degree in sociology and heavily studied marriage and family in America. The "American family" or "Nuclear family" is a socially derived term, therefore it is created by the society in which it exists, this is something that is not a rule or a law or something that is right or wrong. I understand that some religions may feel that it, in fact, is a rule or law because of the beliefs enforced by that specific affiliation, but one must remember that religion itself is a choice. The idea of "family" is changing drastically in all areas of America. Families are more likely to be blended than nuclear, meaning that there are members of the family that are considered step, such as step brother or sister. Over half of American families are considered blended. Those families more common than not will have a biological father and a step father, a biological mother and a stepmother, so the idea that the child growing up with more than one father in a polyamerous relationship is harmful, then in a bonded family it is as well. However, I disagree with that all together. The more loving supportive people a child is surrounded with the better. The foundation that Jaiya, Ian, and Jon are laying down in their family seems much stronger than anything legal or common because it is a relationship they are all choosing to live. I feel they have a much better chance at longevity in their relaitonship because they arent trying to portray what the majority of American citizens are in what a relationship "should" be. They are layng down their own rules, beliefs, and what works for them personally. This can also be done in any monogamous relationship without the societal constraits that we feel pressured by. The American culture is turning into a society where we are becoming intimate with ourselves. We are becoming more aware of what we need as individuals, later marriages, less children, divorcing after 50 years of marriage. Woman having a career instead of a family. We are making choices, and we have the freedom to do so. As Jaiya said, it is so important to be able to have the freedom to choose how to love and who to love.

Jaiya, Ian and Jon, you are so fortunate to have found each other and share your love amongst yourselves as well as others. The three of you coming out and sharing your story with America is just another step toward the progress our society is making toward new relationships and other ways of expressing love. These types of changes will build American relationships, not weaken them.
Thank you.