Are Stay-at-Home Moms Lazy? Plus, Kathie Lee & Hoda
Anderson is joined by a panel of moms who discuss the controversial new study that says moms with jobs outside the home are healthier and happier, and debate the issue of who is actually happier. Also, Anderson speaks with a mom who works outside the home who shares her extreme point of view, claiming that moms who stay at home are “lazy.”
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Anderson also talks with one mom who has gone to extremes to work from home, currently working as a phone sex operator. Video: Day in the Life of a Mom Phone Sex Operator
Plus, Anderson welcomes the wild ladies of "Today," Kathie Lee & Hoda… with an enormous glass of wine! Kathie Lee and Hoda weigh in on the controversial mom study and reveal how much they really know about each other in a hilarious game of "Anderson's Fill in the Blank with Kathie Lee & Hoda."
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I am a stay at home mom and I also take care of my elderly grandpa who has dementia and I also help cook and prepare meals for him and my extended family. My days are always booked. When I was single and no children, I used to work in an office where I was stuck in a cubicle - that was no life for me but it was alot easier back then than it is right now.
OH PLEASE, sounds like the author of this article is a tad sensitive. Interpretating simple statements into far fetched accusations of she said this, or she meant that, only proves the self worth and guilt the author felt when writing this article. YES, SAH mom’s do have it easy! You can not compare a 9-5 job 5 days a week to staying at home and footing around the chores and kids. I have stayed home MANY of times with my kids and it is FAR FROM the daily hectic doldrum you ladies throw around trying to justify doing and earning NOTHING, while your sucker man slaves to provide YOU with a roof and food!!! A man needs to take care of and provide for his kids, but what justifies a grown woman, capable of working and earning to feed herslef, buy her clothes and pay her own bills, leaning on a MAN for support? MEN arent **** women will say, I don’t need a man…but YET, here we are, with MEN still paying a woman’s way, a price for knocking her up years ago, or is simply to much of a ***** to leave her fat,ugly ass and simply pay the child support. As far as the times I stayed at home, with 4 kids? I got them ALL to school, on time, fed, with lunches, had half the day to myself AFTER cleaning around the house, picked the kids up, cooked. fed em, do homework, wash em up, off to bed! SIMPLE!!!! I had over 6 hours a day, not including sleepy time at night, to MYSELF, simply watching TV and sleeping and cruising the net. SIMPLE!!! So dont cry about SAHM who SLAVE all day for the kids and man, it does NOT happen, too much time after all said chores and kids are taken care of, its LEISURE at worst. SO YES< SAHM's are completely LAZY, worthless females and a drain on our society. Any man who allows his wife or girlfriend to SAH while he works, so she can screw other guys, smoke weed, drink and sleep all day long between her minimal resposibility, is a damn fool. You reap what you sew. Must be nice to have the benefit of sucking a man off for rent, food and stability, all the while having his kids "accidentaly" and locking him in a relationship that he will never be happy in. A complete life drainer. Prostitutiojn may me illegal, but shroud it in a relationship where a woman has all the same said benefits while the man has to pay, and its accepted.
This honestly makes me sick, and laugh at the same time. Being a SAHM I am anything but lazy! Growing up with a career orientated mom who was never there took a strong negative effect on my childhood. I would sit by the window late at night just to see her come home from work. When she was home, she really didnt know how to connect with us, she was not a loving mother, she was worried more about herself and her career then her children. Therefore, when I had my own children I did try going back to work after my first but the guilt of someone else raising my child for 11 hours out of the day m-f made me feel sick. I did this for 6months before I left my job and started staying home. Now with two little girls I barely have a moment to go to the bathroom let alone be on the internet. like someone else said they can call us lazy bc they have never stayed home but I call them selfish for not thinking of their children first. I could go on and on but I am too busy :)
My mom was a working mom did all of those things that the stay at home moms do. My dad worked a job and also took care of the home. Yes stay at home parents are lazy. If a working parent can do all that you do and what they do as part of their job while still spending time with their kids then yes you're lazy for staying at home.
This women's response about the stay at home mother is just ridiculous. She has obviously never had to do the things that a stay at home mother does. This is the hardest and most emotionally straining job that anyone can do.
lets get real. some stay at homes do work very hard but honestly, the majority do not.
they are not spending quality time with their children. they are plopping them down in front of the tv to fend for themselves while the mom is on facebook all day.
i am staying with a single mom and most of the time she is gone partying or laying around her boyfriends apartment.
when she is here the kids are up bright and early running around like nuts and she is in bed sleeping until ten am.
meals are some frozen fish sticks warmed up or some fast food.
she is on welfare so people like me have to support these people.
Seriously? I jus*****ched this preview and couldn't help but laugh when I see these plastic women up there on that stage having the audacity to call stay-at-home moms lazy. Lazy? Hmmm, I have a word for you women... SELFISH. How does that word strike you? I think you women are so completely into yourselves that its sick. You think that stay-at-home moms don't go to the gym because they aren't concerned with their self image? Really? It never occured to you that making cupcakes and getting them to the kids' classrooms, attending all of the kids' sporting events, teaching the kids healthy eating habits by having a sit down home-cooked dinner every evening, and so very much more, just might be a LITTLE BIT MORE IMPORTANT than going to the gym, going tanning, or getting your nails done? Stay-at-home moms think doing these things are MORE IMPORTANT THAN ANY CAREER OR GYM. If you have a career, you are leaving your kids alone, or with someone other than yourself. Why did you have kids if you had no intention of taking care of them? You must like the IDEA of kids more than the reality of loving and taking care of them. Stay-at-home moms realize that their children are only young once. You can never go back and recapture the time that you spent working late instead of attending your child's sports/school/etc. events. When the kids are older, there is plenty of time to go do all these things, to even go back to school, have a career, whatever you want. Stay-at-home moms recognize these things and take the time to help their children enjoy their innocence and youth. One last thing to say to all those moms who call stay-at-home moms lazy, who do you think will be taking care of you when you are old enough to be bed-ridden and wearing Depends? I imagine the nursing homes of the future will be filled to the brim with you selfish mothers, because you can't honestly believe that those same kids that you shuffled off to your nannies/babysitters/daycares every day would put off their own gym visits or lucrative careers to care for YOU.
What I didn't see addressed is the type of job the mother has. Some of the mothers act like if your working you must have a mentally stimulating fulfilling job. I am a working mom as a nurse and I often wish I could be a stay at home mom and devote my energy on my child instead of my emotionally draining often thankless and high stress job (as I am responsible for others well being at work). I certainly would be healthier if I didn't work. I'm sure there are others in similar jobs that would be healthier and happier not working and could devote more energy to their families that way.
I had to make an account just to join in this discussion because I am seriously disgusted watching this video. SAHM get no respect and no flack and it's all because people don't understand exactly what it is we do. It is a choice of ours to put our kids first and make sure they are taken care of in a way that we feel no one could ever take care of them. If someone else feels OK with leaving their kids under the care of someone else if they are in the position not (except for school) then that is their prerogative but to say that what we are doing is lazy is saying that you are ignorant!
Why do we SAHMs feel the need to defend and justify the choice we have made? My husband works very hard outside our home, and I work very hard inside our home. When we married we were on exactly the same page relative to what we wished our family structure to be should God bless us with children. Those who call SAHMs "lazy" clearly do not recognize the importance of a mother's role in her children's lives.
I enjoyed WATCHING THE DEBATE, I am a 32 yr old mom and wife with two young children. Sofia 3 yrs old and a 5 1/2 week old, my days are full, all day every day. As for the debate about stay at home moms and those that work full or part time. I was a career women for 10 yrs and at 28 I was surprised to find out that I was pregnant, after being told by various doctors that I would never conceive due to an illness that I overcame in my teen yrs. I was determined to enjoy to the fullest being a mommy, I did continue to work during the first 2 1/2 yrs of my first born life and I was torn because I felt that I was missing out on very important developmental milestones. She is 3 yrs old and I am a stay at home mom thanks to the efforts and hard work provided by my husband. I do plan on returning to the work force when my girls are older and more independent.
I'm 53 and never had children. But I must say, I never thought I'd see the day when a person raising their own children without outside help would be denigrated. It used to be that raising children had a much higher status.
I also never thought I'd see the day when someone would characterize staying home to raise children as "leaching off their husband". Not only do they insult the SAHMs of today, they have insulted generations of women who contributed to their families in that way.
Funny, if they hired someone and had to pay them to do what the SAHMs are doing, they wouldn't say that person was worthless. But if you perform all those services for free for your family, you're worthless.
There is no logic to their stance.
Dear Anderson, I was a stay at home mom as well as looking after friends kids. Well I had one kid that told me when he as in school. He would run to tell me all about what happen in school and also wanted to tell his mom. Well his mom had a very demanding job. She would not knell down and really look at him. By the next year I would ask him what happened in school and he said " no cares but you". I said his mom cared. He told me if my mom cared she would be home with me. I told the mother and she told me to mind my own business. I had the kid and his bother, for 3 more years and then I said I could not do it no more.
It hurt me to see the kid not being happy, my husband and I tried everything. I baked everyday. In the summer they all played in the pool most of everyday. We took walk's and wrote about the walk, etc. Any one who says staying at home mom is lazy does not know what they are talking about. I worked 8-10 hrs in the lab where I worked and it was sure easier the staying home with kids.
I see a lot of misunderstanding and closed minds with this topic. I have done both work 40+ hours a week and stay at home. I currently stay at home. My husband works outside the home and I am also fortunate to draw an income of my own that helps. LAZY is a hurtful word for stay at home moms. My days are busy from 5:30 am until bedtime. I contribute to our family savings by gardening and preserving for winter as well. Have you seen the price of produce lately? I'm very happy to not have to pay someone else to watch my own child or clean my house and handle my laundry. Daycare was more than my house mortgage when I was working! I was heavier working outside the home in an office sitting at a desk and indulging in office party food and take out. I eat healthier now because I have the time to plan and prepare good food. My husband appreciates a good meal and his house in order when he comes home. What it boils down to is it works for some people to stay at home and it doesn't for others. I don't think that working moms can be described as bad in any way. It just works for them and their families. I invite people to open their minds. Running a household is NEVER lazy.