Three Tips to Help Couples Prevent Cheating
Monday, August 13, 2012 5:00AM
"Loveline" co-host and Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist Simone Bienne joined Anderson's conversation about "The Latest Theory on Why Men Cheat" to offer insight, given her experience as a therapist for many unhappy couples.
While a few of the guests who participated in the conversation believe that much of the blame can be placed on women, Simone disagrees, arguing that cheating often happens as a result of fundamental cracks in a relationship.
In order to prevent cheating in any relationship, Simone has come up with cheat-proof tips that can help any couple recharge their relationship, rather than turn to cheating.
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What I find interesting about shows of this sort is that never deal with why women also cheat. They do too. There is only "cheating" if one accepts the concept of monogamy. We are all sexual beings and it is natural for all of us to be sexually aroused through contact with others of either sex who appeal to us. Monogamy was imposed upon us by the religious. They totally ignore nature and it is their best means of controlling others. Swearing fidelity to another is fooling onesself.
Men cheat because they are SELFISH and STUPID. It is NOT about his wife, the women. It all about 'him' and what 'he' wants. He needs attention, he needs sex, he needs someone to talk to....BS. While he is feeling sorry for himself who is taking care of him? Who is cooking cleaning and giving him sex. Cheating men [and women] are inconsiderate, shallow, and weak. Look at the men that have everything that cheat::: John Edwards and Arnold S, JKF etc. etc.
They lack character, honor and decency.
I think that to blame prostitutes for male infedelity is the wrong approach. Do these married men, who cheat on their wives, have any honor? Didn't they promise when theyn got married to keep themselves only unto their wives for as long as theyboth shall live? If you can't keep your word don't blame it on the prostitutes.
Regarding the prostitutes and cheating husbands show: there were 2 women on the right, gold blouse and white blouse that were wives whose husbands had cheated on them. I would like a copy of what those women said, one of them was smack onto the results of what cheating does to a relationship. What do I need to do to get a posibly writen transcript of that dialoge? Your show is top drawer, as good as anything ever on TV. Thank you!
nice advise on sensitive issuess really.thumbs up.
Play dates? Really? Dance around the kitchen? Give me a break. Understand that people change. We change. The first part is accepting that we change, that nothing is constant--that if you want to have a monogamous relationship you have to work at it. However, also understand that this is not the 1920's. We have accepted that we change and in this new culture, we move on. It's not so bad. It hurts but it's not bad. Even the children have learned to adjust. Desire, like time is malleable. Sometimes we want to sit back and marinade with time and other we chuck the whole load of time and start all over. Men and women get tired of mediocrity and there's a lot of that going around these days.
Men cheat either because they are not being sexually satisfied or because they are not getting the type of sex that they want. Simple as that and the fact is that most women lose interest in sex as they age; tha is why you see middle aged men with younger women.
men and women cheat because they can. contrary to what someone one the show said....if one is observant - you can always read between the lines and know if a man is married or involved with someone else. women who continue with these men get a "payout" from being unfaithful. sometimes it is monetary, sometimes it is ego, sometimes, both. I've been on both ends, and found amazing connections. but NEVER wanted the man, nor myself to leave their spouse. I've been with very famous figures in the world. they love their wives, however wanted the companionship/ security of affection while on the road. I will not reveal their names as it would hurt them and their families very much, and this was 20 years ago. and I was married. we both received the love and connection we could not get with whomever was home.