Divorce attorney Jonathan J. Fogel of Minneapolis has extensive experience handling divorces, and gives us his top 5 myths associated with splitting...
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Thanks to Anderson Cooper's show pertaining to Alimony Reform, the Florida Judiciary Committee will be holding a hearing on SB748 on Tuesday January 31,2012 at 03:30 PM. Alimony Reform in Americfa is gaining momentum because there are hundrends of thousands of victims that have "Horror Stories" to tell and Anderson Cooper. Thank You, Thank You, Thank You
There's no due process in Family Court. And if you're the male party in a divorce, you're likely to be subjected to falose accusations of child abuse or domestic violence. The anti-male bias of the therapists, etc. that make recommendations to a judge will help put you away.
Solution? If you're a man, stay as far away as possible from signing a marriage license here in the US.
Family Court is a cesspool designed to separate you from your finances and keep the State from paying welfare to your ex-wife.
She doesn't want to work - she wants you to continue paying her bills. And if you're in a marriage of long duration in CA or any duration in FL or NJ, you may be paying her alimony for life.
I just didn't divorce or legally separate. I paid for the kids expenses and even paid part of the ex's rent for a few years. I made sure she was working before I split and waited until it was for something other than my convenience for us to divorce and voila - no trouble. We even did it ourselves so all we paid were filing fees. If I had allowed her to press for an instant divorce, it would have been huge legal fees and onerous alimony. I gave up nothing in the bargain.
My husband's divorce cost a small forture & was extremely damaging. The post divorce went on for 9 yrs & only stopped when his ex died. She kept everything marital & non-marital. The children were alienated with the help of the Judge who never followed the law (FL). Counseling did not help since the kids were so damaged. She, with the help of the Court, damaged the kids, my husband financially, including me. Laws have to change. We suspected the Judge was on the take, only the attorneys won (financially).
Expect the worst. My ex did the same stuff, found out much too late about a whole secret life.
It is all not truth. It tries to brainwash people.
1. Divorce Has to Cost a Fortune only when you hire lawyers
2. You Can Represent Yourself.
Of course you can and you should. The only thing lawyers do is take more and more money, stall process as much as possible, come to the court last minute and unprepared or find any excuse to not show up at any appointment.
3. If You Move Out, You Lose Out.
Yes you will lose because person staying in will manipulate the value of your house and value of the content of your house and you have to pay a lot of fees to buy any new place and new furniture. You have to go through stress of finding new way in the new place too.
4. Your Kids Are Fine.
Yes they are better than when you both live together. The children after short while will take advantage of both parents competing for kids' attention.
5. You Cannot Co-Parent
No! you cannot have shared custody because neither of you can really control children in such case. The kids find loophole in parenting time and do what they not should be doing. Whatever child does wrong it will be known to one parent only at best. ANy attempt to gain control will cause child to say that the other parent allows to do it.
I filed my own divorce in 2002, we had 3 son's, 2 came with me and the oldest stayed with dad. I paid child support for the one and he was suppose to pay for the 2. Forced payments because I had to hunt him down then after 6 months my oldest came to live with me. I paid up my child support, but since that time I had raised my 3 boys by myself. He is in arrears right now as they are over 18yrs old over $9,000 and still nothing! California is a lazy system and wont do any leg work! I found his new job gave them the info and still nothing. My sons could use that money for college they are going to. He works in the oilfields dont tell me he cant afford to pay his back pay. I believe in being fair. I never raised his support, now thinking I should have raised it and filed a lawsuit. They dont even take it out of his taxes!!!! I hear other women getting monies from that refunds, but not here!
I did my own divorce in 2002. I was married to an idiot for 7 months and in Wyoming you can file on your own and fill out all the paperwork. It cost like $200 and I made Him pay for it he borrowed the money from his new Girlfriend..lol It was finalized in 3 months.
I live in the state of SC where common law marriage is recognized. I lived with my boyfriend for 17 years and finally left him. We have no children together (Thank God!)but do own a house together which he was allowed to say in. The judge evicted my daughter and my grandaughter from the home. My "husband" is very bitter and will not speak to me. This is causing us both a great expense for the attorneys. My husband called my job and I was later fired from my job. I have been unable to get other employment (it has been 8 months). My lawyer is AWFUL...he never returns my calls, hasn't done anything as far as helping me. He is just there. I am so frustrated!!! I don't know what to do. I have given this attorney all of my money and now don't have the money to start over with a new attorney. Is there somewhere I can report my attorney? I have everything documented. If anyone can offer any advice, I would greatly appreciate it.
I was married 48 years came home found another woman in my bed. I divorced my husband and was awarded $200.monthly alimony. I had been retired since 1992 and my earning ability at 70 years o****e in the state of Florida is nil. They are attempting to change the law in Florida so I won't get alimony for the rest of my life. I didn't even qualify for his SS because I was a retired govt employee. How is this fair?
For all those who have been through the process, I doubt whether they would agree.
We think the ambiguities in the law provide a venue for creating more differences than agreements.
That is why many state groups have formed to change the law rather than trying to agree to a lifetime of servitude in court.
My comment is regarding your show that aired this morning Tuesday, January 24, 2012 on Marriage and Finance. Husbands deliberately hide the finances from their wives. I have been with my husband for 28 years and we have been married 20 years. I am currently a stay at home mom and my husband pays all the bills. I have kept my own checking account and the money my husband gives me goes into the account and I write checks for gas, other car expenses, credit card, food, clothing and the money is deplete at the end of each month. Also I have kept open my own savings account but that really does no good because I have no money to put into the account. I have asked my husband over the years about our finances and he just blows me off and say I’m paying the bills what are you worried about. My husband is a financial advisor and he movies the finances and bank accounts around from time to time. To keep arguments to a minimal I don’t push the subject. My fear is: If my husband dies or we get a divorce it will take me a long time to figure out where the monies are and exactly what we owe.
How do you get your spouse to be 100% honest about the house hold finances without creating an ongoing argument?
Great simply article dispelling some misconceptions about divorce. With the right attorney I believe divorce can be made much easier on the entire family. Mr. Fogel I also caught you on the show this morning and it was really great. Hope to see you on there again soon.