The Importance of Crying
Monday, November 07, 2011 9:44AM
How often do you allow yourself to cry?
Twelve-year-old Kyle, who lost his father to cancer two years ago, tells Anderson that he cries a lot and believes it's okay to cry.
Gloria couldn't agree more. "You know, when Carter died, I lay in bed and I cried and I cried, and I cried. And since then, when I cry, there are kind of very few tears left. It's a tremendous help."
Anderson, on the other had, finds it hard to cry. In this clip from Monday's show, Kyle explains to Anderson how crying is really a sign of strength.
Do you find that crying helps you to heal? Continue the conversation.
Have you recently been affected by the loss of a loved one? Share your story.
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Comments
I lost my daughter not quite 4 years ago. I loved seeing your Mother speak.I missed the last time she was on and felt terrible about it. Glad I seen her this time. Not only did my daughter die suddenly from an asthma attack but her premea baby son, my first grandson, died 4 months before that and they both are buried together. I have been going to counciling since. But the counciling stinks where I go. I have been practicing my own, on my own, and getting what I can from your show and the other shows.Also from going back in time from having two really great therapists in my life, plus, I delt with the public for many many years and I learned alot of life lessons from them.
Therefore, I do what YOUR Mother said, something no one sees, I cry alot. Even in my car. I took one picture down.I only have one up.Because the pain is so great. She was only 35.Her name was Tina.She had a tramatic life and tried to attempt suicide countless times, because she was a victim of molestation by the closest person in the family. Of couse I divorced. 24 years ago. But she never got passed it. It haunted her until the very day of her death. There is NOTHING anyone can say to me that can help me. I was trained in classical piano,and quit playing. I forgot everything I ever learned, I even attended and majored in music and minored in psychology. I cannot play at all. I started painting. I quit that too when she died. I just QUIT everything.
I just started to paint a couple of weeks ago, but not by the therapists help by no means. I don't get that from there.
I have become my own therapist.
No choice.
I have become disabled, am on O2 and my health is deteriating.But I am not dying. I know I don't have the will I use to have and believe me I use to have quite the WILL.
To MRS. VanDerbuilt, thank you, and Anderson, thank you, Virginia
I lost my son to suicide nine years ago.....your show on loss was excellent.....your mother is so special.....I have been a fan of her art since the early sixties.....
Dear Anderson....
I think I like your show. I never had the desire to watch you until you started in this new daytime slot.
Your show today, dealing with death was AMAZING, to say the least. I have lost both of my parents. One is 2000 and one is 2006 I don't see myself getting over it anytime soon.
The reason for getting in touch is that I can't say enough good about this show today. Is there anyway to be able to share a full segment link? We have so much to learn from children and this show today proved it. I'm not one for hiding anything from kids....nothing! It's part of growing, learning and maturing as a human being. This young man showed us that today.
Keep doing great things with your show. I'm sure that your Mom is proud of you! I know I would be.
Sincerely, Jill Robertson (CA)
What a great, mature young man! I lost my baby sister one month before her 51st birthday. She was an ER charge nurse for almost 26 years - took wonderful care of everyone but herself. NEVER did a mammogram!!! In fact, most caregivers are like that. I am in The Sister Study, hoping to make a difference in the number of breast cancers in this country. I don't miss a chance to talk with any stranger about getting checkups, mammograms, colonoscopies, etc. Cathy should still be here - she had so much to offer! And a mother and sister that miss her dearly.
Crying is the best medicine when your alone with your grief to relive the anger, hurt, anxiety and loss and it washes away the injustice and cleanses your mind and heart. I have a grandson Kyle's age his father was murdered and the loss is the same no matter what but the grieving is much more intense and traumatic because of the brutality of murder. I'm grateful of the open dialog that the "Surviving Loss" episode brings awareness to the public and lessens the pain.
When you give grief a voice, it cannot defeat you. I agree that crying is a sign of strength, and speaking to suicide is a way out of the most silent shame and bewildering grief. When I could find no way to be heard, I wrote a book about my son Danny, who died at the age of 32 by his own hand. I found it cathartic to speak to the two dimensional format in the privacy of my own home, in the wee hours of the night. I talked about him and to him in order release my shock and give credence to his life.
My book for Danny WHY WHISPER? is being released to the public today on Amazon.com. It took me ten years to let go of it, and now I am unable to get it back, hide it away, and this is the ultimate test for me. I've given him to the world. My hope is that it will save someone else from dying too soon.
http://joannemazzottablog.authorsxpress.com/