Audience Member: 'It Makes Me Sick to See Interracial Couples'
Friday, November 04, 2011 11:01AM
Kiana, an audience member on Thursday’s show, speaks her mind about what she thinks when she sees an interracial couple. “It makes me sick to see interracial couples,” says Kiana. She explains that in the area she’s from, a lot more black men go for white women and she believes it’s because white women allow black men to play a more dominant role.
She continues, “I'd never date outside of my race, and I don't plan to.”
“Do you feel like you're hurting black people or the black community somehow?” asks Anderson. Take a look at her response...
Can you relate to Kiana’s feelings?
Have you ever dated outside your race? Continue the conversation.
She continues, “I'd never date outside of my race, and I don't plan to.”
“Do you feel like you're hurting black people or the black community somehow?” asks Anderson. Take a look at her response...
Can you relate to Kiana’s feelings?
Have you ever dated outside your race? Continue the conversation.
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Comments
How ignorant do people have to be to think of interracial dating as only black people dating white people? Does nobody understand how racist that is? I'm a white woman married to a Korean man. We are an interracial couple; our children are interracial children. They are being raised in an interracial home.
Black and White women are both growing outmoded. As a twenty something white male, I see a future where Latina women are the preferred choice of most men. Latina women are down to earth, compassionate, God-fearing, smart and beautiful. This is only my opinion, but I've dated all and Latina is just the best. You see the ignorance that is on display in the above video. Embrace the future, embrace the Latina!
Thanks Anderson Cooper. You have showed me how racist black woman are.
Kiana's comment alarms me. As a Christian woman who happens to be black, I believe that men are supposed to be dominant and women submissive. This is how God designed it. As we see by her comment and lack of opposition some people believe that most black women want to play the dominant role. THIS IS NOT TRUE.
It makes me sad because you hear a few black women say this and then everyone starts thinking all of us are the same way. Just as all other women are not submissive, all black women are not domineering.
You have a small portion of the population who choose to yell about something and of course they are the ones who are heard while the rest of us submissive, (not subservient) women get lumped into the bunch and therefore overlooked by men who assume we are part of that group.
Well let me start off by saying she is right AND wrong.
She's right because a lot of guys, NOT EVERY BLACK GUY MIND YOU, but a lot of black men will cite "a white woman listens, I can be a man, white women are submissive, etc.' as reasons for them dating outside of their race. Or part of the reasons. And while that is not right that's a reality. I've had conversations with some guys who would swear up and down that they were with a white woman (or a woman of any race/background aside from black) because they saw no color only love; and yet in the face of frustration let it slip, "See why I don't date black women, cause ya'll want to be too dominant' or something to that effect. But wasn't it purely about love? These are thoughts some, STRESS ON SOME, men put out and there have been men that admit they've given up on black women just as she suggested.
She is wrong though because the inside and heart of a person doesn't correlate to what color their skin is. There are wonderful black men and wonderful white men. She might be missing out on someone amazing and all because his pigment isn't as dark as hers. Shame. It's really not giving up but it's about OPENING up and by frowning at the choice to date outside your race she's limiting her views and her heart.
I myself have no problems with interracial dating, but I get upset when black men make me feel as if I am inadequate. Love who you want to love but don't put me down in your quest to find who is meant for you. I am open to dating any color man but I would never put my black men down just so I can find love at the end of the day.
WELL FIRST OFF I AM MARRIED INTERRACIAL AND WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 19 YEARS AND HAVE 3 WONDERFUL BOYS.
IT BAFFLES ME THAT I EVERYONE IN THE AUDIENCE DID NOTHING MUCH BUT SIT THERE WHEN THE LADY SAID IT MADE HER SICK LET A WHITE PERSON SAY THAT THEN EVERYONE WOULD HAVE A FIT AND STAND UP.
TO ME RACIST COMES IN DIFFERENT COLORS. I WISH PEOPLE WOULD SEE THAT.
I TEACH MY BOYS TO LOVE EVERYONE AND THERE IS GOOD AND BAD IN EVERY COLOR.
I DO NOT SEE MYSELF CHANGING FOR ANYONE I AM GOING TO BE WITH WHOM EVER I WANT TO BE WITH.
not its not rite at all to have interracial relationships we have different traits for a reason and we are born on a different side of the planet for a reason not so a lab can breed with a Australian Shepard. so that we can Cary our line on if we all mix breed there will be a weird concoction its sick and the reason for most medical problems in n.i.c.u. just because a girls stuff is tighter from another side of the world doesn't mean i wanna stick my d in it.Or just because most black men suck at making money doesn't mean i want a deprived black chick screw that and i tired of any that do go home foreigners you guys produce a crap quality and by the way the world record breaker Johnson is and always has been on a white dude get it straight Johna falcon buddies.
I personally believe there is still a lot of ignorance and racism in this world. It is unfortunate that after decades of the fight against racism it still lurks around the country.
Of course my situation is different but it is still a racial issue. I am mexican and i have two sisters married to white men. They are both very happy. Yes when they first started dating 18yrs ago there were people that did not think it was right but there were many who approved of the relationships. They only thing that should matter is that they are happy. I have mostly dated latinos but i would be open to dating anyone because in the end all that matters is the love we have for each other not what the rest of the world thinks of our relationship.
I can definitely relate to Kiana's feeling. I'm glad the audience actually listened to her and didn't seem to be hostile. If I, as a white man, said something similar, I'm sure I'd be called a despicable racist.
One of my daughters was in a relationship with a Korean boy. She's white, both are Christian. Yet his parents told him if he married her he'd be disowned. It put such a strain on the relationship they are no longer together. It's frustrating to me because they had such fun together, they were intectually suited and an economically good fit as well. She's dating again now...she like darker skin, just another chapter in her life.
So wait a second, she said because white women allow black men to play a dominant role, so hold on, isn't that what all men would like to have a role like that and feel and be like a MAN. Its only black women that don't understand that concept because they do not want to be women, but rather be men to play the dominant role and that is why black men rather date and deal with other race of women, because other race of women allow black men to me MEN. The white man have brain washed the black woman so bad that she actually think she is suppose to be in a dominant role over her men. She is the only race of woman that thinks this way and wonder why there are not much 2 parent single parent households because these women do not know their role as women.
It is the most surreal feeling to wrap my head around the fact that some people look at us and feel sick. While this woman decides, with one look, the nature of our relationship and the depth of our bond, we are are every other couple, trying to keep our marriage and family a priority, parenting as a team, soaking in the blessings and leaning on each other through the storms. I did not take my husband out of the arms of a more deserving black woman. He did not choose me to fall in love with so he could live out his fantasy of having a subservient white wife.We developed a strong, solid friendship, fell deeply in love, and decided to spend the rest of ours lives holding each other's hand.
I think the media needs to stop caring so much about black people's ideas on marriage. I don't agree with the audience member's logic, but I'm sure some people from ALL race*****e interracial marriage.
Oh man..there are some very ignorant women..in this world..that one woman to say it makes her sick to see a black man with a white woman..well who gives a crap..what she or anyone else thinks about it really..I happen to be a black woman married to a white man and we were set up on a blind date by a mutual friend...ten years ago.. and since that first date have never been apart..that's the problem with women..the ones that want a man...be it bf or a husband...want a man of a certain color.. when what they need to be looking for is a GOOD MAN... AND THEY COME IN ALL COLORS..a woman no matter her color..shouldn't leave herself closed to what may come her way..because you never know what you might be missing out on..never know what love may come your way.. love is love..you cant put a color on it..I love to see other interracial couples..out there..only goes to show all those of you out there that want to hate on it..the we really don't give a damn what you think about it
Dear Anderson:
My husband is my best friend. We are an interracial couple. We have been married for over 10 year and it does not feel like it has been that long. We were friends first. Not looking for love and it just happened. I do not believe people can determine who they will fall in love with based on skin color; it's who your heart and head connects with. Neither of us feels uncomfortable in public holding hands because it's just right. It's sad to see people with what appears to be a closed mind. They could be missing out on connecting with their true love.
Best wishes,