POLL: Would You Date Someone in a Polyamorous Relationship?
Thursday, November 03, 2011 11:11AM
Ivy Joeva knew Ian was in a polyamorous relationship when she first started dating him.
"I was kind of weirded out, but you know, he seemed like a nice guy," says Ivy. Anderson asks, "And then at what point was it no longer okay?"
Ivy replied, "I remember Ian commenting that he could have a child with me and then have a kid with someone else, and I was like, there was just no part of me that thought that was remotely okay."
Filed Under: As Seen On The Show
Comments
This polygamus family is really for the men in this situation. He is the one who is head of the relationship, and has everything to gain by having two woman to meet his needs. Why can't the women make things equal by accepting two women and two men to make the scale even?
The first wife seems to be very insecure of her marriage. She goes along to make the husband happy because his relationship with her is not enough. Therefore, before he takes a woman behind her back, she accepts one that she knows everything about her.
I am surprised that noone said that, the only really that will have everything was the man. Also, that why couldn't there be an extra man. While the man had one of them, the other two could do the same, and make the scale balance evenly.
I personally would not. But don't have any problem with those that choose to do so.
I think this is sick! This is really sick!
Not because it's different from my lifestyle,because it is being emotionless!
I am not a narrow minded person! I believe in Love,Gay or straight does not matter to me! But being with two people at the same time is only possible in a porn movie or I say a sick sexual relationship!
I don't really know how it works for the child, of course that woman would never admit if the child is having real bad time seeing his mom with two men!
I am not american so I don't really know how it works in America for children who are not living in a suitable situation but where I live, if something like this happens, there are child care organizations who would take the child from the parents! These sick people can do whatever they want, but they can't choose this lifestyle for an innocent kid!!!
I don't usually watch this show, but I need to see more of this. I have a similar relationship, and we are learning to branch out from our 10 year and 4 year relationships and grow. It's been... interesting so far. I'm glad to see that they are enjoying their family as much as we enjoy ours, although we don't all live together.
This is the best thing I have ever heard of I had never heard the term before but I now know this is what I have been looking for.
I can understand where Ivy is coming from. I've been told by women before that they'd love to have a relationship, but because at the time I was married and had 3 children still living at home they could never have with me what they wanted at that time: A closed marriage, house with a white picket fence and children.
I was not a good candidate for their future goals. And that is okay. My relationship style isn't for everyone and I would never want someone to be in a relationship they didn't want to be in heart and soul. For their part they also wouldn't ask me to be different than I am because that's why they liked be to begin with, and my polyamorous nature is part of who I am.
That said, like Ivy and Ian, I am still great friends with each one of those women. Just because things wouldn't work romantically doesn't mean they don't work on a deep friendship level.
I had been in polyamorous relationships like theirs in the past, but I was a different person back then than I am today. I don't think there is anything wrong with the way that they live, if they can make it work. Which seems like they do. Personally, I couldn't do it again, but that's me. I am in a very good monogamous relationship that only works because it is just the two of us. Neither of us have the time or energy it takes for a polyamorous relationship to function. We are best friends and we enjoy each other's company above anything. When we want to sit and cuddle, we don't have to worry about who's being left out, schedules, or anything else, we just do it. Same goes with making love.
I watched your show and all I could think of was the relationship my Dad & Mom have. It'll be 61 years this Nov.8. My 40th anniversary will be next Aug/12. I could no more think of "sharing" myself than fly to the moon. There is a deepness, respect and love that is shown in the marriage. Communication and commitment to make things work. I couldn't imagine my husband showing jealousy and me thinking I need to find another partner that doesn't. Absolutely bizarre and another sign in our society that anything is acceptable. Sad!
I AM in a polyamorouos relationship
Each person has the freedom to do whatever they want in the private life and however they want their relationship to be. I was very impressed with your guests today and applaud them to stand up to their rights. To each its own.
I cannot believe some people are so close minded (in the audience).
i'm so impressed with your guests today
and so unimpressed with the close-mindedness and judgemental spirits of some of the audience members. a different species indeed.
It can be quite difficult to express to the monogamous that "serious" doesn't always have to mean "marriage & babies". Love is quite serious, yes?