Women vs. Men: Is One Less Trustworthy?
Thursday, October 13, 2011 2:18AM
One audience member on today's show couldn't help but notice that all of the betrayed guests on today's show are women. He asks, "Are men more likely [to be] duplicitous [and have] double lives? Are there any stories about women doing the same?"
Dr. Michelle Callahan weighs in, saying it's "easier" for men to be untrustworthy because of a woman's inherent role as a caregiver.
Hear her explanation below…
Do you agree or disagree? Is one sex less trustworthy? Discuss this issue in the comments below.
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I think what we have here is and excuse from both sexes for bad behavior. Is a cheater always a cheater.That is the question. Also can someone forgive. The answer is no. We pretend to forgive. But the min.someone is late or there excuse seems far fetched We go back to the bad place,We cannot help it as being human. We have been hurt it is never fixed. Just a band aid.I do believe woman put up with more,but are better cheaters. One thing we forget most cheaters do not where protection. So as well as cheating they put your life in danger for there own self worth. One last thing all men don`t cheat.Also cyber cheating is cheating. We have now since the ****on age have even tried to say oral
is not cheating. Anytime you hide something or feel guilty about something it`s cheating.
Anderson it got so bad in Canada with men deceiving and cheating while attempting to destroy their wife for leaving them that the laws were changed to protect the woman. Which I am in agreement with because the Judges were fed up with men clogging their courtrooms with their self righteous "I am God" behaviour and therefore I have every right attitude.
But here is the not so fun part.
Now good men are paying the price for this change. Because now we are seeing women of the younger generation of below 35 years old who have made the nasty decision to use this behaviour to their advantage to lie, cheat, and deceive, their husband and get what they want out of their divorce like the men have done for eons. It is also even being done in common law relationships of which they have legal separation rights in Canada as well.
We will see even more changes since gays have spousal rights in marriage and divorce as well and this will play out in the same sex relationship in a similar way. I do not necessarily believe it's gender specific I believe it's societal attitude generated and it has shifted from men only to both genders completely and all sexual orientations.
It's a free for all on good men and relationships in general.
Both gender either way doing this is not good. I continue to see more men doing the cheating and deceiving than women (as many men now are going from many women to many men).
At the rate the young women are coming up with the "I am God" attitude my daughters generation is in for a horrible time. What I see coming is a disaster in the making.
Even though Canada has same sex marriage rights with equal rights to divorce, what many do not know is that; if a man marries a woman who has an affair with another woman it's not considered on the law books as adultery. The laws have yet to catch up to it. A man is still left in limbo legally in the courts. And has no leg to stand on and even though in Canada you cannot divorce on the basis of adultery alone.
Women here continue to marry men to cover up their lesbian affinity from their family and its growing with lesbian adultery (even though men have done this type of hiding for centuries two wrongs do not make a right), and despite the fact we have same sex marriage laws. The same sex marriage laws benefit the men more than the women here because it's considered more socially acceptable for the men than the women. More rules are still placed on the woman then men.
I believe the moral compass of the planet has shifted to a self centred, self absorbed behaviour. This is now played out in full view on the "reality" shows as okay because you can financially benefit from it. Are the reality shows themselves at fault no. What is at fault is the moral compass of decency and respect for one another of our modern society that says anything goes at any price as long as your are happy. Where does it end? It ends when there is no benefit for the person doing it.
I think that men have a bit of an edge for cheating on women, but not much. Women are generally taught to be supportive to men, to look to men as partners in life, and to expect a relationship where both parties will spend the rest of their lives looking out for one another. Men are generally taught to view women as sex objects and one-sided mother-figure care-givers. It is interesting to note that there is far more slang that denigrates women than there is slang that denigrates men, and that's just the way it is. But that doesn't mean women are more decent, or that women don't break the societal role placed on them. So given the opportunity, I believe that women would cheat on men just as often, because cheating happens when one partner doesn't care for the other, or feels dissatisfied.
On the other hand, I also think that men are FAR more likely to murder another person, so it's possible that FAR more women have been married to murderers than the other way around.
women cheat alot! we're just a little better at it then men! men are sloppy cheaters and bad liars - and creatures of habit. women have learned from watching men and those who do cheat and lie are just damned better at doing so..
i was cheating on now my ex with a mormon missionary my man found out and divorced me i was.43 he was.18
I think analynn y makes a good point. Perhaps women are more likely to discuss their betrayal than are men. But I don't believe for a minute that women aren't also betrayers. In fact, my husband's ex went on vacation with him, pretending all was normal, while all along planning to leave him. One week after returning from vacation, he came home to find all his stuff on the sidewalk. She wanted that vacation, so that's all that mattered. And this was 9 months after their second child was born. She got what she wanted, including driving him to renovate their home to accommodate her home business, and just expected him to whither away and do what he was told...that is, pay pay pay. Talk about a double life, and a terrible betrayal.
I am so glad you had this show on Anderson. I feel really sorry for this woman. However, it's so common. The family court system in this country is so out of whack it is unbelievable. The stories I have heard, I have lived through with my 3 boys who thank god are now young men, could make the hair on your back stand straight up. The courts are backed up, run by people that are sick of hearing all the garbage, don't care about kids and let anybody and I mean anybody file an order of protection, or lie to get what they want. When I went through my (I'll call it stuff) with the court my ex had money I didn't and he could buy anything. I found it so interesting today every time you said to the lawyer, How can that happen? You would be amazed. It took me 10 years to mentally and physically realise that the courts would not help, and eventually, someday my boys would just get it.
I'm one of those men who has been deceived after many years. I've read a study I beleive from the U.k. recently that states women surpass men when it comes to lying and cheating, that does not surprise me one bit. Women you must remember are better at not getting caught and covering their tracks.
Women vs Men. I believe that there are good men out there who have been victimized by women leading double-lives as well. The thing about men and women though, is that women are more vocal, and they have more support groups and channels that help them go thru these issues in their lives. Men, on the other hand, tend to keep to themselves, always too 'private' and protective of their ego.
It would be nice, for a future episode, to present real men on your guest panel who are brave enough to share their own stories as to how women can be deceitful, too.
I believe men are more likely to stray for sure. However, women do cheat, but at a lower percent and for different reasons.